Relationship Repair

Family, Individual, & Couples Therapy in The Twin Cities

Relationships can be the source of so much joy in life, and also much pain, disappointment, and stress.

Maybe you’ve been hurt by infidelity or find yourself in a high-conflict relationship that isn’t getting better on its own. Or perhaps you’re preparing to blend two families together and are wondering how to navigate the sometimes rough waters of divorce and remarriage. Or, maybe you’re on the proactive side: wanting to work to prevent future challenges in your relationship through premarital counseling.

 

Whatever your relationship looks like right now, wherever the hurt or pain may be, therapy can help create a new partnership: one that’s stronger, richer, and more fulfilling than it’s ever been.

 

Therapy for Infidelity

FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES

The journey of moving on from your or your partner’s infidelity can often be full of feelings of embarrassment, shame, anger, and bitterness. The desire to forgive or move forward may be there, but actually doing those things is often much easier said than done.

In therapy, my job is to be an objective third party. I won’t be taking sides; rather, I’m here to validate both of you. I’ll help the person who acted on the infidelity identify what it is they were looking for outside of the relationship and the other partner to understand this as well. Then, we’ll look at what was missing in the relationship for this to happen and, through communication and reconnection, work together to fill that gap.

Therapy for High-Conflict Relationships

FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES

If you’re in a relationship where arguments often escalate, there are regular outbursts, or it feels like you’re walking on eggshells, you may feel frustrated, defeated, alone, and unheard. When you try to address this with your partner, they may either retreat inwardly, getting quiet and unresponsive, or lash out in response.

I work with both couples and individuals who are in high-conflict relationships. We’ll work on practical communication skills, de-escalating responses, and setting boundaries. My goal is to instill hope and stability in the partners who want to work on themselves, to better respond to triggers so they’re not contributing to the unhealthy “dance” they feel caught in.

Therapy for Blended Families

FOR FAMILIES, INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES

Bringing together two families through marriage is hard—often, much harder than we expect it to be. Children may begin acting out at one house or the other or push back against discipline or boundaries, and parents may feel stuck, resentful, and defeated as a result.

The blended family life cycle looks different than the typical family, and this has to be acknowledged in order for it to be successful. I work with families, individuals, and couples who are preparing to blend their families or who have already done so. 

We work on identifying how the original divorce or relationship loss affected the children, acknowledging any previously unaddressed emotions related to this, and ultimately creating a plan for how the new partners can integrate into this dynamic in a positive, constructive way. I’m here to offer support, insight, and perspective at every stage of this process.

Pre-Marital Counseling

FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES

When your partner and you are preparing for marriage, you want to do everything in your power to set your relationship up for success. Maybe you want to do things differently than you experienced growing up, or perhaps you’ve identified cycles or patterns in your relationship you want to work on before committing to a life together.

In premarital counseling, I work with both individuals and couples to do work personally and collectively to be the best partners they can be. 

As a therapist trained in the Prepare & Enrich method, I’ll take you through a customized assessment that will help you see your relationship clearly and without bias, allowing us to identify areas for growth and improvement to set you both up for success. We’ll discuss things such as finances, past relationships, conflict, and owning your role in each area. This is an investment in your future relationship: one that will pay off in dividends.

Every relationship goes through seasons. I’m here to help the next one be one of hope, connection, and strength.

As a therapist, there are few things more incredible than being part of relationship repair that works—getting to see the forgiveness, strength, and growth that occurs when partners do the work to get there. I want to help you create a new plan for a new relationship. We’ll say goodbye to the old one and work together to create one that’s even better.

 

FAQs

  • Whether you’re coming to therapy individually, as a couple, or as a family, the work we do is grounded in evidence-based methods meant to restructure how you and your partner exist in your relationship. It’s not simply talking with a third party present; it’s getting real, professional support to restore and repair your relationship.

    While it’s impossible to make guarantees, if you and your partner are still invested in your relationship, are willing to own your role in past hurt, and are open to doing things differently moving forward, then therapy can likely benefit you.

  • The length of time we’ll need to work together will depend on your unique needs and goals, but we will always be working toward those. Once we’ve reached them, we’ll decide if it makes sense to continue working together or if you feel good to begin putting what you’ve learned into practice without regular sessions.

    While my time working with individuals, couples, and families on relationship repair varies, it is usually between 2-6 months. At that time, we may decrease session frequency or end them altogether (although I’m always here if you need to check back in).

  • Yes. Couples can be together in an EMDR session and we can work together as each supports the other.

  • Click this link to schedule a free consultation with me. I’ll answer your questions about what it’s like to work together and you can decide if I’m the right therapist for your relationship.

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